Top Reasons People Leave Their Fiancé at the Altar

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Imagine it is your wedding day, probably one of the happiest days of your life! You’re getting ready to marry your soul mate with the idea that you will build a happy life together. The ceremony is just about to begin and you find out your fiancé just bailed. They left you at the altar.

Now, you will probably wonder why your fiancé decided to give in to their cold feet and flee. We’ve come up with a list of the most common reasons people are left at the altar on their wedding day.

They Weren’t The One

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People say that you find “the one” you’ll know. People may trick themselves into believing that the person they are about to marry is their soul mate, but it turns out to be wishful thinking. They know that “the one” is somewhere out there for them, and it isn’t waiting at the altar.


Father’s Words

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Parents only want what is best for their children. In some cases, the bride’s father can be a little overprotective and won’t be afraid to voice his opinion. Some men are scared off by their fiancés father and will hit the road.


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It’s common for couples to fight. In fact, it’s pretty healthy. However, there is always that one fight that can break a relationship. During stressful times, like planning a wedding, couples may get into fights that result in them running out on their wedding day.


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While we don’t like to admit that money can play a huge role in a relationship, financial issues can be the cause of a canceled wedding. Depending on spending habits, debt, and other financial related issues, this could be the reason someone is left at the altar.

Toxic Relationship

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Toxic relationships can be difficult to identify if you are in one. However, when you do realize you are in a toxic relationship, it’s best to get the heck out of there; even if it is on your wedding day.

Cold Feet

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Some people just realize that they aren’t ready to get married. It may not feel real until they are dressed up and see their family members waiting for the ceremony to begin.

Another Love

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Nobody is perfect. Some people are unfaithful, physically and emotionally. There are just some people who cannot commit to one person for the rest of their lives. So, this scares them into canceling their wedding. They would rather be with another person or not want to be tied down to one person.

There Is No Reason

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The worst reason is that there is no reason your fiancé walked out on your wedding. This can make it extremely difficult for the person who was left at the altar to have closure.

Jail Time

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Maybe your fiancé was a criminal and you didn’t even know it. Well, once they are arrested and convicted, they’ll spend some time in jail. If you aren’t ready to be the spouse of someone who is incarcerated, it may be a reason to call off the wedding.

Too Many Differences

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The phrase “opposites attract” doesn’t always ring true. There are some couples out there who are so different that they can’t see themselves with the other person for the rest of their lives, so they run out on their wedding day in hopes of finding someone more similar to them.

Wrong Reasons

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We all make mistakes sometimes, including wanting to get married for the wrong reason. Maybe you wanted to get married so you know you wouldn’t be alone. Or maybe you wanted to get married because they had a lot of money.

Arranged Marriage

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Believe it or not, there are still some cultures that plan arranged marriages. Many of these marriages work out. Other times one of them gets too scared and leaves the other, still a stranger, at the altar.

Secrets Come Out

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We hope that we know everything about our fiancé before our wedding day. However, that isn’t always the case with some couples. You may find out that your fiancé has some pretty dark secrets they kept from you, which can be a deal breaker when it comes to getting married.

Green Card Marriage

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Many people will get married so one of them can get a Green Card. While this arrangement may work for some people, it is a dedicated process and hard to pull off. This may intimidate you into leaving your fiancé at the altar to find another way to stay in the country.

They Are Already Married

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Talking about dark secrets, one reason to leave someone at the altar is that either you or they are already married. Legally, you cannot get married to another person if you are already married.

Hollywood Cliché

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While life isn’t a movie, there can be some moments that sure feel like they are out of one. Some people may make a dramatic Hollywood exit at their wedding. It could be in the middle of the ceremony or just before the wedding. Either way, there will be an audience.

Family Issues

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In-laws will never be easy to deal with, no matter whose side you are on. This feud between families may cause one person in the couple to decide that the drama and feuding isn’t worth it and leave their fiancé at the altar.


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The first thing someone thinks when they are left at the altar is that their fiancé is stuck in traffic and running late to their own wedding. While this can definitely be the case, it most likely isn’t.

Going Through With It

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While it really seems like a mean thing to leave someone at the altar, sometimes it is the best choice. The worst thing is to realize shortly after getting married that you should have left when you had the chance.